Babylove.

Standard

Dear little one, 

       As we get farther and farther into this process, I just can’t help but think about the time when I will actually get to call you mine. There are so many things that I can’t wait to do with you. I can’t wait to pick out your first Easter outfit. I can’t wait to buy you Christmas presents. I can’t wait to hear your voice, even if it is while you are crying. I can’t wait to plan your birthday parties. (See previous post, Birthdays. 🙂 ) I can’t wait to introduce you to all of your family. I can’t wait to see you smile.

There are so many jobs that I will have to do as well though. I will have to get up in the night when you are crying. I will have to give you medicine when you are sick. I will have to make sure that you are warm, full, and happy. I will have to make sure that you know how completely and totally amazing you are. The most important job that I am going to have after you come into my life is to make sure that you are raised to be someone who loves Jesus and that you know that you can be a world changer because you were made in His image. This is going to be first on my to do list every single day. Some days it’s going to be harder than others, just like some days are harder in parenting in general, but I am going to make sure that I do my best because I can’t imagine anything more satisfying than to know my little one is not just living life, but living an extraordinary life in Jesus. 

I love you, Mama

Cliche.

Standard

Image

 

 

Over the past couple of posts, I have tried to let you all in on where we stand in the process of our adoption. There are several different things that we are working on at the moment. We are completing our training classes online, which hopefully we will be able to finish today especially now that Florida has won their basketball game. 🙂 We have been collecting everything for our homestudy to be turned in. The only thing we have left with that is to get our fingerprints done by the GBI. We have already sent our prints in to the FBI, but apparently, they need to make sure that we haven’t done anything illegal in the eyes of the GBI either. Another thing that we are in the process of completing is a profile book. This book is like a scrapbook of our lives that the agency will be able to show prospective birthparents. It will be the first impression that we give to the woman that will be able to change our lives forever. It’s a pretty big deal, which is why I have included my mom in helping us out with it. After all, she’s the one that has all of the cute pictures! 

One of the sections that they ask you to include in your profile book is a section about your house including a picture. They also ask you to include a picture of the room that is to be the baby’s nursery. It doesn’t have to be finished, but they want you to show the area where the baby will grow up. I have gone back and forth on the idea of whether or not to go ahead and redecorate this room to be the nursery for the picture, or whether or not to leave it untouched. As usual, many people have offered their advice. “Won’t it make you sad to have the room decorated but not have a baby for a while?” or “Don’t you think the birthparents would like to see the room decorated?”. Also as usual, I do what I want. I have decided that we are going to go ahead and get the nursery ready. 🙂 Of course, we have to do a gender neutral nursery seeing as how we don’t know the sex of the baby so we are going to do it grey and yellow, maybe even a few little elephants thrown in. This is my Spring Break project. 

I really wanted a wall hanging of a bible verse that I felt appropriate for this baby’s room. I knew exactly who I wanted to do the wall hanging, my beautiful, talented bestie Laura. She’s a graphic designer(Check out her designs at Fleecher Designs!) and I know she will be able to just do a beautiful job! My problem was I couldn’t decide which verse I wanted to hang in my baby’s room. There are so many good ones, 1 Samuel 1.27, Psalm 139.14, James 1.17. All of these are such great verses, but I just kept coming back to Jeremiah 29.11, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you.” I kept pushing this verse away because this verse is used on EVERYTHING from greeting cards to graduation announcements. I didn’t want to be “cliche.” Suddenly, I realized, there is NOTHING cliche about the word of God. This verse is just what fits to hang in our child’s room because adoption was not the plan that we had, unplanned pregnancy was not the plan of our baby’s birthmother, but all along this process is God’s plan. God knows exactly where our baby is, when our baby will be born, and everything else about our baby’s life. He doesn’t promise us that we always understand the plan, but He promises that He knows the plans he has for us, our baby, and our baby’s birthmother. That truth is always sufficient and it is something that I want my baby to know from the first day we bring him/her home. 

Who are we?

Standard

Image

 

For those of you that are wondering where we are in our actual adoption process, we are in the midst of a few things. We are working on getting everything done for our homestudy process. This includes getting our fingerprints done and analyzed by the FBI and the GBI, getting FULL physicals and bloodwork done, filling out tons of forms and making tons of copies. Basically, anything about your life that they can look into, they will. We’re also putting a profile book together, which is like putting together a scrapbook about our lives. My mom has helped out a lot with this one, seeing as how she is the one who takes all of our pictures. 🙂 The other thing that we are working on right now is completing three training sessions online. The 3 topics that are being covered in our training are: Open Adoption 101: The ins and outs of establishing a connection, Let’s talk adoption (about telling your child they are adopted), and Creating an Adoption Profile that works. 

Right now, we are in the middle of the course about creating our profile. This talks about ways to make sure that your profile book and your letter to the birthparents make a connection with them so that they will choose you to become their child’s parents. There are a lot of good ideas and new ways of thinking of making our book and writing our letter. One exercise that they encourage you to do is to think of a couple of characteristics of yourselves as a couple that might stand out to potential birthparent and make them feel a connection with you that will cause them to choose you. This was interesting for Ken and me. We have a lot of awesome traits about us so choosing just a few was hard. 😉 In the end, we narrowed it down to these: 1. We’re young. We feel like we have a lot to offer in the fact that we will be able to really connect and have fun in life with our children. 2. We love to travel. We enjoy going to new places and visiting our old favorites, like Savannah, St. Augustine, and of course Mexico Beach. We feel like birthparents will appreciate that we will be able to show their child so much through travel. 3. We’re family oriented and we also have big extended families that we like to spend as much time with as possible. we’re including this in our profile to show that we will love our child unconditionally, but so many other people will love this child as much. Our child will be surrounded by love at all times! 4. The last thing that we decided to include was that we are sports enthusiasts. We want to show this because this something that Ken and I are both completely passionate about. We won’t include that we are both passionate about two completely different teams! 🙂 Of course, there are so many other things that will already be included, like our faith and our love for each other, but these are what we are including as connection points, things that we might have in common with the birthparents of our future child. We know that no matter what we include in our profile, God’s hand will be involved in the birthparents of our child picking us. He already knows the plans that he has for our child and our child’s birthparents and for us. This is what gives us peace through this whole process. Oh, that and we are praying constantly. 🙂 Thanks to everyone else who has been praying for us as well. We feel your prayers!  Here’s a question you can answer, When you think of Ken and me what qualities do YOU think of? 

Birthdays.

Standard

Image

 

 

Anyone that knows me, knows that I LOVE birthdays. When I meet people, one of the first questions I will ask is “When is your birthday?” and I will never forget it. I love to celebrate birthdays and will always make a big deal of people’s birthdays, especially those I love. 

Today is one of my favorite birthdays of the year, the birthday of my Granddandy Floyd. He is one of the most important people in my life, and he might be the most influential person I have ever been around. He is wise, he is fun, he loves his family, but loves Jesus even more. It’s amazing to just be around him. When I think about him, and other people that are just as important in my life, I am excited for our baby even more. There are going to be so many people in its life that love, support, and well, spoil this baby. I can’t imagine a baby being surrounded by more awesome people than our families. This ESPECIALLY goes for my Granddandy. He’s been awesome as a granddad, so I know he will be an even more awesome great granddad. (If that’s possible) So, happy birthday Granddandy! We love you. 

Back to birthdays, I love others’ birthdays but I love my birthday and celebrating it just as much! By the way, my birthday is April 2nd, less than a month away, so prepare yourselves please. 🙂 This year, each time we celebrate something, whether it’s my birthday or Easter or Mother’s Day or Ken’s birthday, I find myself thinking, next time we celebrate this occasion, Ken and I could have a baby of our own that we will be celebrating with. This is an awesome thought. For this reason, Ken and I have decided to go ahead and celebrate our birthdays and anniversary this year in a BIG way(or as big of a way as the Hayes do, like a weekend with friends at Mexico Beach)seeing as how this might be the last time that we are celebrating as a couple. The next time we celebrate, we could be celebrating as a family. We both love the idea of this! 

Another thing that we are excited about is the birthday that will change our lives forever. We are looking forward to the birthday that we will definitely be celebrating for the rest of our lives. We are looking forward to the birthday of our little one. If I am this excited to celebrate my Granddandy’s birthday or the 30th birthday of my best friend this past December, how excited am I going to be to celebrate my baby’s birthday? Let’s face the honest truth, my kid’s birthdays are going to be off the chain. As much as birthdays mean to me, how could they not be? Will you join me in praying for our child’s birthday, the special day that we will be able to welcome the baby that we have prayed for into our lives and eventually in our home? That’s all that Ken and I could ever ask from all of you, is just your consistent prayer. We feel your prayers and appreciate them so much. 

“Whoever welcomes a child in my name welcomes me, and anyone who welcomes me welcomes also my Father who sent me.” Mark 9.37

Babylove.

Standard

I have decided to begin writing letters to our future little one, partly to help me get my feelings out but also to help you all who read my blog to see what is going on in this new world that Ken and I have entered into of adoption. I hope to one day be able to look back and smile at all of the memories that were made just through the process alone and to also be able to share it with little one. 

Dear little one, 

    It’s been a little over a month and a half since we started the process of coming to know you. There has been a lot that has happened. After a lot of research and prayer, we decided on the agency that will bring you to us. We chose to work with One World Adoption Services. We couldn’t be more excited about the possibility that our now case worker, Jessica, will be the one who will call us to tell us about you. We are also filling out form after form, answering question after question, making copies after copies of all of our personal documents, and even getting a physical done as part of our homestudy. These agencies want to make SURE that they give their children to the safest, most comfortable, most loving homes possible. We are working on a profile book as well for the agency to show to all birth mothers who they think might be a possible match. One day, your birthmom is going to see our profile book and feel led that we are the ones that she will want to raise her child. We are so thankful for your birthmom, and we don’t even know her yet! As we are filling out all of these forms and looking through all of these pictures to put into the profile book, I am reminded of just how strong my love is for your Daddy. He is absolutely crazy about you already, as am I. I have loved getting to show other people our love for each other and why we think we deserve a child as awesome as you are! 

Since announcing our plans for adoption, we have had a lot to be excited about, but there has also been a lot of loss as well. Over the past month, I have experienced loss in my life and the lives of others around me as well. My excitement about you has been overshadowed a little bit by these losses. That’s life though. Life is all about loss and gain. When I think about you, I think about everything that my life will gain. I think about how full my life will be, no matter what else I have lost around me. I am so excited to meet you, little one. I know a lot of other people that will be excited to meet you as well. Until that day when I get to meet you, I will keep praying for you and your birthmom. 

I love you, your Mama. 🙂 

PS. I can’t wait to be called Mama.